DO THE PRETTY GIRL ROCK

 

DO THE PRETTY GIRL ROCK

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Now
what’s
your
name?

NotMissKeriLynnHilson
but please,
take a seat.
Hangout.

Today we’re talking, PRETTY PRIVILEGE.

If you were a cutie in high school –or secondary school, semantics– you’re not new to this human bias. You’re true to this.

As the talk of the town you get almost anyone you want. Standard! Even difficult teachers are favorably lax dealing with your disturbances or unruliness in particular, if you ever pushed it or used and abused it.

However, by now,

you should know –if you haven’t already– you’re not special.

“PRETTY PRIVILEGE:

the baseless merit or allowance an individual is automatically presumed once perceived as conventionally attractive.”

At least not because of that.

Your genetic predisposition simply made you more desirable. It made you “cool”;

which you may have discovered counts for a lot to MOST people because human beings are trash. Being “pretty” is a  bargaining chip.

Can you absolutely,  100% relate to that in Highschool?

Then sorry to tell you the devastating news that the chances of you having a wholesome and considerate personality which is also non asshole-esque but a little bit more interesting than watching paint dry, is slim to none.

Accounting for outliers of course.

Simply because, ugly builds character.

And they say experience is the best teacher.

Argue with the old parables.

Pretty privilege can get the rules bent, turned or swiftly changed for the privileged. Consequently, it could also bring about resentment to the wielder. It’s assumed as genetic and for that reason a thing of luck or unattainability.

But in today’s day and age ?

Get your money up and you too can buy it.


Truthfully?
We all can acknowledge the pang of envy the concept of “unattainability” could incite in our species. Nothing stings more than a unlevel playing field. It’s a different kind of unexplainable life changing hurt.

Ahhh, …

humans,

the highly “intelligent” mammals

judging so superficially?
Considering how popular plastic surgery is now, that claim seems strange.

Don’t judge a book by it’s cover they say. Surely, our all intelligent refined minds should naturally transcend this silly bias by now right?

Sike!
We are human.
We always seem to forget that.

Yes, it’s a thing.

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Did you know you’re less likely to be convicted of a crime if you’re considered “conventionally” attractive?
Literally, your appearance could be so beautiful and favorably distracting; human bias would interpret this as harmlessness and innocence.

DISCLAIMER!!!

It’s important to note that it’s no one’s

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Some things are just innate and arguably, a necessity needed to have sustained survival for this long; roughly 200,000 years. Reprogramming our biases is the appropriate way forward to the Utopian world we all seem to desire.

Pretty privilege is as natural as immediately cooing at a wide-eyed, soft-feet, shiny-cheeked chubby newborn.

We can’t help it.

But with some self awareness, we can keep our biases in check.

“No, thank you. Just stay there & be pretty like you usually are”

is one example of a passive aggressive backhanded compliment for a resentful hater.

Compliments like these usually are said in retort to a conventionally attractive person offering up their skills or assistance trying to contribute towards a common goal or purpose in a group or for an individual.
It rears it’s ugly head in workplace.

It contributes to sexism; thoughts and assumptions that a good-looking woman couldn’t really be truly competent in her field. Or an attractive man in a predominantly female dominated field-as few and far in between those are allowed to be.

Albeit understandable, the resentment sometimes directly feeds the narrative that generically “pretty” people cannot provide note worthy skill or intelligence and  their value is mostly equated to eye-candy.

Hard place to be if you peaked waaaaaay later on life because society will insist on attributing most of your accomplishments to the new “pretty privilege” you just now started to benefit from.

It’s a double-edged sword; you get a high off compliments and it’s undeniably a boost.

However, it could put your self-esteem in a vulnerable position.

The dreaded hands of public opinion.
Always keep in mind that the “Ugly” duckling was always a Beautiful swan. All that changed is the public’s perception.
If you’re on this edge of the sword?

take your power back.

“Dress how you want to be addressed”

A Yoruba adage roughly translates to english as:
“in your time of lack, dress your best. You can dress down in your time of more”,
What are these quotes actually trying to convey? they highlight our human biases.

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The truth is clear;

appearance does skew our perception of reality even if we choose to deny it.
Essentially, we fundamentally always judge a book by it’s cover

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and yes, it sucks.

But.
If we acknowledge our very obvious biases, we can control or possibly redirect them.
Giving people the space to be themselves without being obsessed with immediately labelling and boxing people in.

Remember,
We create the world we imagine.

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